Am I justified in breaking up with him or am I being unreasonable?

I have dated him before and it lasted a month.I broke it off. Well, we have been dating again for 8 months. I love him. Leaving him won't change that. But I can't do this anymore. When I'm with him I am only able to enjoy my time a bit. In the back of my mind are all of the things he has done to hurt me. He doesn't work and doesn't seem to be really trying to find a job. All he does is play video games and sleep. The 1st thing he did wrong was in July. He didn't call me for 2 days and no matter how many times I called he didn't answer. Finally I drove over but right before reaching his house he called. I asked why he didn't call me, he answered, " (F-bomb), I just didn't want to." Yep. I'm with him. I told him never to do it again and just text me. He said he would and hasn't done it again. Then he started cancelling dates to sleep. Well, he doesn't have a job so why is he so flippin' tired? Video Games. Yep. He plays them all the time. So finally I got fed up and left him a message, " You're starting to hurt me by cancelling to sleep all of the time. Please take a week off and get your life together for my and your sake.." to which he called back saying he's the type of person that when pushed to change, pushes back. Basically he just told me, " (F-bomb) off". I didn't even jump on him for it. I wasn't being a naggy gf. I was just tired of being hurt. Then he fixed that to the point where he wasn't cancelling out on me. He still just sleeps and plays video games. But it just doesn't directly affect me. This probably, (am I right?) should have been the last straw when I had established he would pick me up from work one day and I waited 45 minutes in the cold. He never showed. I got a ride and drove over to his place. He was sleeping. So I gathered the stuff I owned that I had moved over there and I was crying and he seemed really apologetic but he didn't move. I asked him, " what kind of person am I if I'm with a guy who can't even pick me up?" He didn't reply. He said, " How about you take it easy tonight and cool down and I'll talk to you about this tomorrow? You just seem really angry." I told him I wouldn't take him back unless he reeaaally proved he was worth it. This probably was a mistake but I called him back that night and said I would forgive him and move on if he apologized. Which he did. Then the next night we were going to see eachother but he didn't show and called me at 10 apologizing profusely and asking if he could still come and pick me up. I agreed. The night went okay. The next day, not so much. We woke up at 10 and then he got us lunch and an hour or so later he went to bed for 8-9 hrs leaving me with nothing to do. I endured it as I have been for awhile now. But I can't anymore. Another big mistake we made was during the summer when we "hung out" all we did aside from when we went out was play video games. He played his and I played mine. I had intimacy issues that I've grown out of. But I don't know what to do. He's not affectionate like how I want. I want a man that the second he has a girlfriend won't go playing video games and leave her to her own devices. I want an actual man. Plus, anytime I bring up him looking for a job he gives me curt and short answers and doesn't seem to want to talk, like he's getting pissy. The is okay. He takes much longer than me to get off but if he were treating me how I feel I should be I wouldn't care. Now I've met a guy that pretty much fits everything I want in a man and, (not to say I'd dump him for another man) I'm wondering if this relationship is even worth the effort. He is affectionate but it just doesn't make me feel loved anymore. Nothing in his mannerisms makes me feel cared for and loved. It's like he doesn't mind this relationship the way it was (him playing video games and I playing mine, him not working and sleeping and playing games). And the not having a job wouldn't be a problem if he were really looking or being a really supportive partner and not making me feel like he's holding me back. Oh, one more thing. I was nagging about an issue in life (not about him) that he's given me advice for. He said, " I've told you what I think you should do so I don't give a ****, do what you want." That really, really just ruined my trust that if I go to him needing a shoulder to cry on that he'll be there. God. And I really think I could be doing so much better. I'm not the girl that needs TLC 24/7 but when we're together I'd appreciate open communication where I don't feel every serious conversation about him or me is going to end with me walking on eggshells and I'd like to be actually doing things together. And just being in love. It's true that after 7 months- 1 yrs the erflies go away and relationships have their sticky spots but I really don't see how I'm being unreasonable in what I expect. Now............ Am I being unreasonable or does it sound like I am justified in feeling this way. Ladies, what would you do were you in my sit